8 Sep 2015

RELATIONSHIPS DO's And Dont's : IF YOU WANT TO KEEP HIM/HER TILL JESUS RETURNS

marvin saidi | 17:37 |

Hellur *madeas voice* you adorable earthly sinners it’s been a while since i last blogged but after tones of emails and tweets asking me to come back and run things here i am with the first post being about something way off  my usual topics of fashion as the Title explains it all, first and foremost i must start by saying never take what i tell you about relationships too serious cause to begin with i never do relationships, call me a baby but but the main reason like everyone is that I was heartbroken in grade 5 by the one by then but now ever since that era many of the people who know me call me all sort of rude, ego caressing names like fuck boy, man whore and so on Christ i don't even know where I’m going with this anyhu back to matters of the heart in 0………1..........2...…..


Too many people under the sun, love is a very tricky and confusing  thing and to others, love is just a mirage of happiness, fairy tales and happily ever afters after them of course being influenced too much by the likes of titanic and Tele undo.


The weird thing about all of this people is that they may be in a relationship and still never ever experience what true love really is, but every new relationship/ fling or infatuation has the potential to blossom into something spectacular and wonderful, just as long as you remember the relationship rules that matter the most Yes I said rules this Alien forsaken thing has rules it’s like algebra and your supposed to follow each and every step and point whether you think you are not we all find ourselves following them stupid rules I wonder even who came up with them in the first place cause I hope it’s not Adam or Eve cause look at it this way Adam was the only Man in the planet but Still Eve look for attention from a fucking mere snake Bruh! A Fucking Snake smh!


There are a few relationship rules that can change any sort of drifting relationship into a romantic one, from love relationships, FWB, casuals etc. But as trivial and simple as they may seem, it’s something that needs a lot of effort and dedication to achieve. Yet it’s surprising how much dating has devolved in terms of good, old-fashion human compassion. Dating has been evolving since the dawn of Adam, but it seems as if the upward curve turned into a downward spiral once social media became to light.


People are now more compassionate towards their fellow friends and followers, but what about to their significant others? Not so much. It has come to a point where dating is either attributed to a game or a race to the finish line. There is no middle common ground anymore.

Either you want to keep it my way which definitely is casual and taking you out on dates once in a while and being your shoulder to lean on but just no to dating and telling each other the eeew! I love you B.S, or the other one is you’re striving for a commitment. Neither of those two seem plausible due to today’s society influences, especially with the modern dating trends that are now running rampant across the globe.


Man if I was to date I would most definitely choose the old school dating style I mean you and your partner had a modicum of privacy, no matter what your intentions are. No one knew if you were dating, unless you explicitly told them. You couldn’t monitor each others lives, while slowly nitpicking each others profiles until there’s nothing left but a text saying, “See you around/ we need to talk or I can’t do this anymore.”


You got to admit that people cared more about other people’s feelings back then than they do now.

Someone once said that falling in love should be effortless. It’s at some point True but what do I know, falling in love is easy, but staying in love always needs a bit of work. Just as long as working on a relationship feels less like work and more like fun, you should be just fine.


                                                DO’s 


Like everything else, successful love too is based on a few rules Follow these relationship rules in your own relationship, irrespective of whether it’s new or old/casual or serious. As long as you’re committed to creating a better relationship, you’d have no trouble creating a magical experience of love.


1# Most important Communicate with each other and grow together in love, but never grow apart with lack of communication as the days or months pass by


2# learn to give space to each other to become better individuals. Even the closest of relationships need some alone time to miss each other now and then.


3# never take each other for granted. This is the easiest way to fall prey to affairs and arguments.


4# Say a white lie when you need to, especially if it’s a little lie that won’t change your relationship, but will make your partner feel happy.


5# look sexy for each other, and that includes a flat tummy. Just because you’re in a relationship doesn’t mean you should let yourself go and look shabby.


6# Compliment your partner, even if it’s a regular chore or habit. Compliments are the best way to thank a special someone for the effort they’ve taken for you, however small it may be.


7# understand that your partner can have crushes on others too. It’s a difficult thought, but if you admire someone else, so can your partner.


8# whatever works! No relationship is alike. Instead of learning from someone Else relationship, learn from your own relationship’s successes and failures.


9# End an argument as soon as possible, even if hugging your partner is the last thing on your mind.


10#most importantly Bruh! Burst a nut regularly and in very intense way hit her orgy make her apologies for World War 2 while you pounding on her cookie



                                                            DON’T’S


1# Labeling-

for the love of God ladies stop labeling each and everything maybe he just wanted sex that’s it nothing more or less then it got to your head that the way he strokes you his the one then Bam! Comes the labeling things and starting to do the love birds doc Phil non sense then end up making him drift away because he wanted none of that .

Either you label it too early or you label it too late. The best way to go about this in the past is to ask and get a sensible answer. No one had to wait if it’s the right time to ask where things are going, and no one gets mad when they don’t get the answer they want. They pursue relentlessly until they are inexplicably rejected.


2# Fortune-telling

You forecast the future and predict that things will never get better, leaving you feeling helpless and hopeless: "He'll never change"; "I'll always be unhappy can do this no more.” You can try play a little game called "Catch Your Partner Being Good." Just list every positive every day and then share it with each other. You might be surprised what you are doing that is working already -- if you only noticed.



3# Mind-reading

You interpret your partner's motivations as hostile or selfish on the basis of very little evidence: "You don't care how I feel"; "You're saying that because you're trying to get back at me." Rather than engaging in mind-reading, you can ask your partner what he meant or how she is feeling. Sometimes it's beneficial to give your partner the benefit of the doubt: "She's simply taking a little time to unwind" is a better interpretation than "He doesn't find me interesting."



4# Emotional Reasoning

You feel depressed, and you conclude that your emotions show that your relationship is an epic failure. "We must have a terrible relationship because I feel unhappy"; "I don't have the same feelings towards him that I used to; therefore, we're no longer in love." Not knowing that feelings may go up and down, depending on what you and your partner are doing.



5# Shoulds

You have this atrocious list of "commandments" of your relationship and condemn yourself when you're depressed or your partner when you're angry for not living up to your "should rule" Here are a few typical examples.

  • "My partner should always know what I want without my asking." 
  • "I shouldn't ever be unhappy (bored, angry, etc.) with my partner." 
  • "I shouldn't have to work at a relationship; it should come naturally."
  • "It's all his fault, so why should I change?" 
  • "Our sex life should always be fantastic." 
  • "If I'm attracted to other people, it means that I shouldn't stay in this marriage."
  • "My partner should accept me just the way I am.


Now, be honest with yourself. Are these "should" helping or hurting you and your relationship? I guarantee that if you have a lot of them, you are pretty unhappy. Rather than talk about the way things "should" be, you might consider how you can make things better. Replace your should with "how to" and "let's try." 


6#  Perfectionism

You hold up a standard for a relationship that is unrealistically high and then measure your relationship by this standard. "It's not like it was in the first year, so it's not worth it"; "We have problems, so our relationship can't work out." The problem with perfectionism is that it is bound to make you miserable. You may think that you are holding up your ideals, but you are really putting you and your partner down. No relationship is perfect -- and no relationship needs to be perfect.



7#Perfectionism

You hold up a standard for a relationship that is unrealistically high and then measure your relationship by this standard. "It's not like it was in the first year, so it's not worth it"; "We have problems, so our relationship can't work out." The problem with perfectionism is that it is bound to make you miserable. You may think that you are holding up your ideals, but you are really putting you and your partner down. No relationship is perfect -- and no relationship needs to be perfect.














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